Building Relationships with Children
Prague Christian Library
Makes
the problem the enemy, not the parent or teen
Uncovers
hidden issues that lie behind the problem
1. Identify the problem.
2. Share thoughts and feelings
and acknowledge your teen’s thoughts and feelings
3. Generate solutions and
future guidelines together (within limits that you as a parent can live with)
4. Decide on logical
consequences if needed
5. Follow up to make sure
agreements were kept (and to enforce logical consequences as necessary)
Logical
Consequences Guidelines
1. Ask the teen to help decide
the consequence.
2. Put the consequence in the
form of a choice.
when/then
choice
3. Make sure the consequence is
logically connected to the misbehavior.
4. Give choices that you can
live with.
5. Keep your tone of voice firm
and calm.
6. Give the choice one time,
then enforce the consequence.
7. Expect testing (it may get
worse before it gets better).
8. Allow the teen to try again
after experiencing the consequence.
Parenting
Adolescents
Menlo
Park Presbyterian Church
Menlo
Park, CA – USA
A
Philosophy of Discipline – Six Broad Guidelines
1. Define the boundaries before
they are reinforced.
2. When defiantly challenged,
respond with confident decisiveness.
3. Distinguish between willful
defiance and childish irresponsibility
4. Reassure and teach after the
confrontation is over.
5. Avoid impossible demands. Be
absolutely sure that your child is capable of delivering what you require.
6. Let love be your guide.
Trust God for the impossible.